We all have had something that held us back because we told ourselves we wouldn’t be able to get that loan so why bother, how can I work on what I truly love to do if I won’t have the time do it, I’ll never be able to stick to an exercise regime, people always laugh at me when I come up with an idea so I might as well save myself the grief…
Kind of a buzz killer, don’t you think?
The limitations we’ve placed upon ourselves are long-standing from years of filtering through similar experiences and into our internal way of processing. Every time we experience something from the outside, it is filtered through our unique way of thinking that passes over to a particular state of mind, our body’s reaction and an internal representation of this event which then becomes our external behaviour for the world to see.
The other day I was with a client and, although they’ve been working on incorporating a healthier lifestyle for themselves, they were continually having to struggle every time they were in a group of friends or family. The experience of hanging around and having large amounts of food placed in front them was a trigger for the internal battle to begin, their internal dialogue was exhausting and it would go on and on.
Imagine trying to enjoy yourself while an internal conversation is taking over. The focus is not on the experience but rather on the negative of being unable to enjoy yourself.
Identifying how their limitation was serving them a purpose was the real key. In their case, their limitation held them back from being happy, reaching their desired weight and truly being present with themselves. Their limitation was an unsatisfaction with portions and a sense of deserving.
Take note of your limitations, they become a reality we even begin describing ourselves with them.
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